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[Brian L. Rygg or Laura Barbee-Rygg]

I did that when I first joined the list!  And got an email from someone
whose heart was very much in the right place worrying that I knew not what I
did.  I actually thought that people knew I am gay - I talk about my lovely
Lady so much, even on the List.

Your point, however, is well made.  As a fat gay woman, I understand
entirely what you mean.

Gwynydd of Culloden (who had intended this message only for the sender
originally, but has rethought that and now here it is for all to read)
- ----- Original Message -----
From: Kiri


> I guess some of us found it insensitive because we were unaware of your
personal
> life.  I do know that it seems to be a common thing among various
> religious/racial/sexual preference groups that it is ok for jokes of this
nature
> to be told by a member of the group, but that it is unacceptable for the
same
> joke to be told by one who is not a member of the group.  As most of us do
not
> know each other personally but only through what we read on this list, we
have
> no way of really knowing who belongs to which group, if any.  I know that
it is
> perfectly ok for me or someone who also has an amply-endowed body to tell
"fat"
> jokes, but I do get a little hurt if a lovely slender person tells one!
>
> I guess, if we're going to make comments like this, we might want to
preface our
> remarks somehow to let others on the list know that we are part of the
group we
> are joking about...that might make it a little better!