SC - feedback requested

[Elaine Koogler]

I don't think that any of us feel that way, Stefan.  It's just that you've
covered just about anything that any of us want to know, so anytime anyone asks
anything, there's an entry in the Forilegium that covers it.  It's great to know
that the resource is there, even if we sometimes forget to look there first for
information!

Kiri

Stefan li Rous wrote:

> Hello folks,
>
> Often I mention a few files in the Florilegium that I think might prove
> to be useful here. Sometimes in response to direct questions, sometimes
> just because I think they might prove useful.
>
> Something happened at our event this past weekend that has me rather
> bothered, and I wanted to make it clear that if folks felt I was doing
> the same thing here that someone would step forward, hopefully privately,
> and tell me so, so I can change things if needed.
>
> At the event I sat down with a "friend" and two folks new to the SCA.
> After talking a while with the three of them I pulled out one of my
> Florilegium "business cards" and gave to the couple and mentioned
> that they might find the newcomers section useful. When I did this
> my "friend" mentioned how good a resource the Florilegium was. The
> newcomer couple said they had been there but hadn't seen the newcomers
> section and we got off to talking about personas and cooking, with
> me basically asking what their interests were and making some referances
> to various sections or files that I thought they might like.
>
> During this my "friend" had walked away. I found out later from a friend
> that she had walked over to some other folks in the barony to find
> some folks to go "rescue the newcomers from Stefan". I felt (and feel)
> rather betrayed by this. Had she stayed there and changed the subject
> or simply said something like "Stefan, that's enough about your files,
> lets talk about something else", it wouldn't have hurt so much.
>
> It is possible that the newcomers felt I had entrapped them, but I
> didn't see any such signs and I don't think they made any effort to
> avoid me during the rest of the day. But it is certainly possible
> that I was being a social dufus and blind to the signals.
>
> So, anyway, if I am committing the same social faux pas here, someone
> please let me know and I'll cut back or whatever.
> --
> Lord Stefan li Rous    Barony of Bryn Gwlad    Kingdom of Ansteorra
> Mark S. Harris             Austin, Texas           stefan at texas.net
> **** See Stefan's Florilegium files at:  http://www.florilegium.org ****
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