[Sca-cooks] Personal Iron Chef Challenge

[Olwen the Odd]

I'm sorry this is still a topic.  If it's dead and you can't/won't eat it, I
don't think it should be discussed on this list.  Sorry.
Olwen

> > Actually, funerals, I believe, are not really for the person who has
>died, but
> > rather for those of us who remain behind.  I went to my stepmother's
>funeral
> > more to be there to comfort my father than anything else.  That's not to
>say
> > that my stepmother wasn't a great person...it's just that she was beyond
> > caring whether I was there or not.  But my father grieved over her death
> > greatly and needed me there with him.  That's what really needs to be
> > considered.
>
>Yes. If the living need you to be there for support, you should go... in
>my family(ies), however, the fact of the funeral is less important than
>that you are there at some point. I made a point of going to my
>(semi-estranged) father's funeral for the sake of my grandparents (and I'm
>glad I did); but when my great-aunt was dying, my mom and I drove to LI to
>be there to see her before she went, and nobody in the family expressed
>disapproval that I didn't attend the funeral because I had to turn around
>and go to Pennsic to teach. "You were there when it counted," they said.
>
>(Nor, if I hadn't been able to get word to the A&S table to cancel my
>first class, would they have kicked up a fuss if I left to go teach that
>class. Well... any more of a fuss: when I left they were arguing about
>what shoes she should be buried in. ;)
>
>On the other hand, I had to choose between going to help at an event for a
>friend of mine and going to the mundane funeral of someone in my shire.
>Fortunately, others in the shire went, to express our collective grief and
>respect, so I was able to go to the living friend and express my sympathy
>to the family of the dead one at the SCA funeral.
>
>-- Jadwiga Zajaczkowa
>jenne at fiedlerfamily.net OR jenne at tulgey.browser.net OR jahb at lehigh.edu
>"Are you finished? If you're finished, you'll have to put down the spoon."
>
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