[Sca-cooks] P B & J

Antonia Calvo ladyadele at paradise.net.nz
Mon Aug 24 15:33:11 PDT 2009

Judith Epstein wrote:

> Understandable, but what about "Does this dish contain <problematic  
> ingredient>? Oh, dear. I wish I could have some, because it looks so  
> good, but I'd better not, as I have adverse reactions to <problematic  
> ingredient>." That tells the cook that you're not refusing  
> hospitality, nor are you just dismissing the dish out of hand; you  
> have legitimate reasons for not tasting the dish. A simple "no thank  
> you" doesn't tell the cook anything useful. Explaining the reason for  
> the refusal will help ensure that in the future, there'll be 
> something  you can eat.

I was taught not to discuss my constitutional issues at the table, 
actually, especially with people I don't know.  And you know what? I 
don't feel all that bad about saying no to a food that disagrees with me 
or even that I just happen to hate.  I could probably "taste" it, but 
then you might think that I only took one bite and then ignored it 
because I don't like your cooking, and not because I don't care for the 
item in question no matter how nicely prepared it is.

Antonia di Benedetto Calvo

Habeo metrum - musicamque,
hominem meam. Expectat alium quid?
-Georgeus Gershwinus

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