[Sca-cooks] food dislikes, cultural mores and being polite. was Re: Re: P B & J

Antonia Calvo ladyadele at paradise.net.nz
Wed Aug 26 15:34:41 PDT 2009

Judith Epstein wrote:
>> No, they don't "deserve" any of that.  They don't "deserve" to be 
>> treated like a restaurant, or "deserve" to be loaded up with my 
>> objections to their house, their spouse, or their neighbourhood, and 
>> in general, they don't "deserve" to be given a list of what they need 
>> to do before I will deign to visit.  They *do* deserve that I show 
>> up, behave graciously, don't complain, and do eat my dinner.  It is 
>> possible that there will be something that I don't eat, but it's 
>> really not a big deal-- it's a home, not a restaurant, and if there's 
>> something I really don't like, I say "no, thank you" *and forget it*.
> Honestly, "show up and eat" sounds way more like a restaurant service 
> than a social interaction between friends. It's good to know that 
> before I think of getting to know you well enough to want to cook for 
> you, though.

Which isn't what I said.  I have no idea how you got "show up and eat" 
out of that.

Antonia di Benedetto Calvo

Habeo metrum - musicamque,
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