[Steppes] When Email Escapes!!

[Kevin Black]

Man that Morgan guy is weird and his feet smell funny!  In all seriousness, 
I agree with Morgan's statement, and I must admit I am opposed to this 
change on those fundamental grounds, that if you wouldn't say it to that 
person's face it shouldn't be said, even though such a change does cut down 
on the whoops that was meant to be private.  However, it's not like we can 
police better behaviour into people, nor should that be the intent of the 
list.

The majority (and the seneschal) who have responded have said that they 
would like this change, and that's really what matters.  So I'm making the 
change (thus be careful when you reply from now on), at least on a trial 
basis.

Please feel free to direct any comments, concerns, criticisms, insults, 
flames, monkeys with candy to me, either through this email or preferaby to 
aigues-mortes at earthlink.net (my true vscribe account).

Thank you.


Hubert d'Aiguës-Mortes
Steppes Virtual Scribe
Qui fait plus, mieux vaux





Morgan wrote
>
>I have this policy.  I don't say anything in an email that I wouldn't say 
>in
>person or to the person to whom I refer.  Further, I don't send anything in
>what I ***KNOW*** is a private email that I would mind seeing posted to a
>list or read to the subject.  Why?  Because you never know what may happen
>once you hit "send" anyway.  I think this is a better policy than doing
>something to help people who are making snarkey comments from looking
>foolish in public.  I just think it's social Darwinism.  There are people
>who can't seem to learn that gossip and hurtful comments aren't nice.  The
>occasional self imposed negative reinforcement is the only thing that keeps
>some of them in check.  Sorry if I've offended anyone, but that's just my
>opinion.
>
>Morgan
>
>----- Original Message -----
>From: "Steppes Seneschal" <steppes.seneschal at gmail.com>
>To: <steppes at ansteorra.org>
>Sent: Tuesday, January 11, 2005 6:48 PM
>Subject: [Steppes] When Email Escapes!!
>
>
> > This is a situation that many people ignore, but it is a real problem.
> >  Here is how it usually starts:
> >
> > Someone sends a email to the list saying how cool a time they had at the
>event.
> >
> > Someone else replies saying something like "yeah, cool time, but did
> > you see what HL Sparky was wearing, man what was he thinking", and
> > then hits send.....
> >
> > Moments later all the color drains from commenter's face, and fills HL
> > Sparky's...
> >
> > Public and private emails fly about.
> >
> > More rumors, oh what fun.
> >
> > The problem is that the Steppes List is a "party line" so private
> > comments don't stay private.   And yes, I have caused grief in this
> > way more than once.
> >
> > There is a solution,  it would change the default setting to replying
> > to the sender and not the list.  You would actually need to press
> > 'reply all' to get your message to the actual list.
> >
> > I think it's a smart move and I had one of the moderators look into
> > this a couple of months back.  It is not in my authority to make this
> > change, but I think it would help.
> >
> > So, what does the group think?  Is it worth it to you to actually
> > choose "reply all" instead of  "reply" to prevent hurt feelings?  I
> > think it is.
>
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