[Steppes] When Email Escapes!!

[Trish Kvamme]

I think that the proposed idea is one that is very genuine, but I think it 
will cause a bit of a problem, and covers an issue that really needs 
addressing more.

>From a mail box stand point, I hit reply all today and got my message 
bounces from the other lists that I am not on, kinda a pain...and the other 
lists are going to wonder where that came from, topic from outer space, 
duck!!!!

But...there goes my preamble... what I consider the more important issue 
kinda ties into this email ettiquette thingie, so here goes.

We are trying to create a society based upon courtesy and chivalry.  All 
Lords are valient, all Ladies gracious and beautiful, I am sure you all have 
heard the long version of this from me lol.

What has really begun to bug me and some other peers I have talked with, is 
that it seems the value of grace and courtesy seems to be being somewhat 
pushed aside and the value of "look at me! look at me!!" considered more 
acceptible.  Personally I came to recreate the whole medieval/Ren thing with 
the courtesies, the cool clothes and the martial aspect.  I see enough "Look 
at me!!!" in the real world both business, home, kids, wondering the isles 
at walmart, you get the picture.

***We once valued service from an individual as coming from love from their 
heart, not want of an award or recognition, and once valued recognizing 
individuals who were humble of spirit and gentle of deeds as amoung our most 
mighty assets and great treasures.*** <see Duchess stand on soap box!!!***

What I am saying is that if we hit the oops button, been there done that, we 
hit it.  If we are giving a critisism of an autocrat, an event, a fighter, 
an artisan etc to a 3rd party perhaps we should be considering ccing them a 
copy instead of prevention methods.

I would dearly love to see a return to times where someone was held in high 
esteem for the quiet deeds and work they have done, not seeing someone try 
to further their recognition through their associations or god forbid a non 
period neon sign.

Steppes is an old Barony.  We are in Dallas Texas a HUGE area of population. 
  Instead of further insulating outselves from each other, why not work on 
agreeing to disagree, learning each other's strengths so we can call upon 
each other, and working together as a whole to bring in the new membership 
this group needs and deserves.

I for one would love to see our Barony double and triple in size over the 
coming years.  More new friends, more to share the paegentry and the dream 
with.

We have a wonderful B&B and a new seneschal full of energy and enthusiasm 
for the Barony.  Let's use the list to generate some new enthusiasm for our 
group to grow and thrive.

My .59 cents for today :)

hugs all.

Larissa

>From: "Gerita/Carolle Cox" <hpockets at verizon.net>
>Reply-To: hpockets at verizon.net,        "Barony of Steppes - SCA,Inc." 
><steppes at ansteorra.org>
>To: "'Steppes Seneschal'" <steppes.seneschal at gmail.com>,        "'Barony of 
>Steppes - SCA, Inc.'" <steppes at ansteorra.org>
>Subject: RE: [Steppes] When Email Escapes!!
>Date: Wed, 12 Jan 2005 11:36:25 -0600
>
>
>I think this would be a great thing!  It's just too easy to hit 'send'
>without re-reading the To: line, and the whole world knows your inner
>thoughts.  <cringes>
>
>Gerita
>
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>sun is out, but when darkness sets in, their beauty is revealed only if
>there is a light from within. -- Elizabeth Kübler-Ross
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>-----Original Message-----
>From: steppes-bounces+hpockets=verizon.net at ansteorra.org
>[mailto:steppes-bounces+hpockets=verizon.net at ansteorra.org] On Behalf Of
>Steppes Seneschal
>Sent: Tuesday, January 11, 2005 6:49 PM
>To: steppes at ansteorra.org
>Subject: [Steppes] When Email Escapes!!
>
>
>This is a situation that many people ignore, but it is a real problem.
>Here is how it usually starts:
>
>Someone sends a email to the list saying how cool a time they had at the
>event.
>
>Someone else replies saying something like "yeah, cool time, but did you
>see what HL Sparky was wearing, man what was he thinking", and then hits
>send.....
>
>Moments later all the color drains from commenter's face, and fills HL
>Sparky's...
>
>Public and private emails fly about.
>
>More rumors, oh what fun.
>
>The problem is that the Steppes List is a "party line" so private
>comments don't stay private.   And yes, I have caused grief in this
>way more than once.
>
>There is a solution,  it would change the default setting to replying to
>the sender and not the list.  You would actually need to press 'reply
>all' to get your message to the actual list.
>
>I think it's a smart move and I had one of the moderators look into this
>a couple of months back.  It is not in my authority to make this change,
>but I think it would help.
>
>So, what does the group think?  Is it worth it to you to actually choose
>"reply all" instead of  "reply" to prevent hurt feelings?  I think it
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