[Ansteorra] History/Enculturation/Cliquishness....

Wed Apr 24 12:08:34 PDT 2002

I am sorry, but the statements below offend me.

I have seen MANY examples of people, myself included, bending over backwards
at almost every event I go to to help people.  I usually hit about 2-3
events a month, so it is not like I don't see much of what is going on.  If
someone is in need and either asks NICELY, or if I spot someone that needs a
bit of help, I will offer.  VERY rarely does someone not get help.

What ticks me off is that I seem to have run into number of people who seem
to think it is there right to have me serve them.  It is NOT.  I have seen
"ladies" stand in the middle of a hall and loudly proclaim "what low
straights have we come to when a lady will not have a gentleman offer to
carry things for her".  Pardon my language, but bullshit.  Standing and
expecting help without asking is a crock.  People are not mind readers.

I offer my service to help as a gift.  It is my pleasure to help others.  It
is my privilidge to do so.

To EXPECT people to do so is an insult to the service that they have
offered.

Avery Shaw (sitting here in my asbestos underoos)
Cadet to Don Aubrey de Baudricourt
Apprentice to Master Iolo Fitzowen
but I will stand by my words myself, thank you very much

>-----Original Message-----
>From: Keyna [mailto:keyna at hot.rr.com]
>Sent: Wednesday, April 24, 2002 1:47 PM
>To: ansteorra at ansteorra.org
>Subject: Re: [Ansteorra] History/Enculturation/Cliquishness....
>
>
>Ya know it sorta looks like chivalry is slowly dying to me as well.
>Keyna
>
>----- Original Message -----
>From: "Michele Hoermann" <ladyjutta at earthlink.net>
>To: <ansteorra at ansteorra.org>
>Sent: Wednesday, April 24, 2002 6:04 AM
>Subject: Re: [Ansteorra] History/Enculturation/Cliquishness....
>
>
> > And may I add in this bit a few ladies and I have noticed....
> > What ever happened to the time when a lady could not walk 3 feet
>carrying
> > something heavy or bulky (or anything for that matter) without a lord
>coming
> > out of nowhere to pluck these things from your arms and assist you to
>your
> > destination. Be it just 2 more feet away or clear across the site. I
>know
> > this time was not THAT long ago. Yet, I have had many men, including
>Knights
> > and Dons, walk right by a lady with her arms full and not even take
>notice.
> > Please tell me that chivalry is not dead in the SCA!!
> > Lady Jutta
> > ----- Original Message -----
> > From: "Pam Kendrick" <pkendrick at houston.rr.com>
> > To: <ansteorra at ansteorra.org>
> > Sent: Tuesday, April 23, 2002 9:11 PM
> > Subject: RE: [Ansteorra] History/Enculturation/Cliquishness....
> >
> >
> > > I hate to say this, but here goes.......................
> > >
> > > Last year at Star Gate's Baronial I could not even get one of four
>knights
> > > to help me lift a heavy cooler off a table and onto the floor, though
>I
> > > asked several times for assistance.
> > >
> > > They were MUCH too busy talking about how to properly hit an opponent.
>I
> > > have since stopped asking.
> > >
> > > Setting up camp alone, with or without children, has become the norm
> > rather
> > > than the exception.
> > >
> > > Damask
> > >
> > > -----Original Message-----
> > > From: ansteorra-admin at ansteorra.org
> > > [mailto:ansteorra-admin at ansteorra.org]On Behalf Of DonnelShaw at aol.com
> > > Sent: Tuesday, April 23, 2002 7:40 PM
> > > To: ansteorra at ansteorra.org
> > > Subject: Re: [Ansteorra] History/Enculturation/Clickishness....
> > >
> > >
> > > I know personally I can no longer set up a camp by myself. I don't
>have
> > the
> > > strength. But I don't seem to get the help I use to get. Since I have
> > > children with me I tend to be stuck looking for someone and
>apologizing
> > to
> > > them. My solution has been an RV. But that does not cover it at a lot
>of
> > > events. Thus I tend to day trip a lot of times. I use to brag that I
>could
> > > always find help to set up my tent. Now that is not the case. I know
>there
> > > are other women who travel by them selves with children that have
>voiced
> > > similar. Can I see any up lifted hands willing to help when needed
>women
> > > with
> > > children?
> > > Ly Maili Donnel MacGregor
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are dangerous. Also, sinful. If a man should challenge me, I would take him
kindly and forgivingly by the hand and lead him to a quiet retired spot and
kill him."
            ~ Mark Twain

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