[Ansteorra] Uncourteous Peers? (Was Telling someone that what they are doing isnotperiod)

[Melinda]

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From: Harry Bilings
Date: 9/14/2006 5:45:36 PM
To: ansteorra at lists.ansteorra.org
Subject: Re: [Ansteorra] Telling someone that what they are doing
isnotperiod
 
There is a member of the peerage that would hunt my lady up and "tell" her
Crochet is not period and she should not do it at events. Now she dosen't
She dose not go to events at all, and I go to far fewer.
Have fun play nice.
 
Plachoya
Humble archer
Ravens Fort Ansteorra
 
-------Original Message-------
 
From: Elizabeth Ellis
Date: 9/15/2006 11:07:33 AM
To: ansteorra at lists.ansteorra.org
Subject: Re: [Ansteorra] Telling someone that what they are doing
isnotperiod
 
Well how rude was that!  I've got to tell you though, just because somebody
gets a peerage does not mean they are automatically cured of being a social
misfit. When stuff like this happens, just chalk it up to the infiltrating
power of the goofball factor. I do hope your lady will take this into
account and eventually come back.
 
 Mistress Corrinne
 
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This brings to mind an issue I have been mulling over myself. 
Over the years I have been in the SCA I have had great experiences with
peers. I had some help me get over the orignally instilled peer fear I had.
I became friends with peers but still showed them the respect for their
station.  
This past summer I had an unpleasant ordeal with a member of the peerage I
did not know well at all. To say the least it left a very sour taste in my
mouth and in a way it broke a piece of my heart. From what I had learned of
and from peers in the past being courteous to others was something that is a
cornerstone of earning said peerage.  
I do not mean to offend anyone with this missive. I myself strive to be as
courteous as I can be. I know we all have bad days and make mistakes. 
So my question is, how do you deal with a rude peer? Do you simply ignore
the rudeness? Ignore the peer?Do I simply chalk this incident up to a bad
day or mistake?
 
In service,
Lady Aerin