[Ansteorra] Love and recognition

[Sir Lyonel Oliver Grace]

Salut cozyns,

I question anyone's ability to determine another's true motives, much less 
judge them.  I have a daughter, step-daughter, step-son, and foster daughter 
who are all over 25. I still don't understand what motivates them. What are 
the odds that I'll be able to determine the motives of a relative stranger.

Human beings are pattern seeking creatures. Since we can't find what we 
consider rational explanations for the motives of others, we tend to write 
stories in our heads that explain them satisfactorily to us. I believe this 
story-writing technique is responsible for many of the unsavory traits we 
ascribe to others. I see someone acting in a way that I don't understand, 
and it might be explained if I assume that person is acting out of greed. 
Before you know it, I've convinced myself that the other person is motivated 
primarily by greed. Two years later I find myself refusing to trust that 
individual because--for some reason--I know that he's greedy.

lo vostre per vos servir
Meser Lyonel
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Micel yfel deth se unwritere.
		--AElfric of York




>From: "Kelley Ross" <myladimoon at msn.com>
>Reply-To: "Kingdom of Ansteorra - SCA, Inc." 
><ansteorra at lists.ansteorra.org>
>To: ansteorra at lists.ansteorra.org
>Subject: [Ansteorra]  Love and recognition
>Date: Tue, 26 Sep 2006 05:55:40 -0500
>
>To be honest, I think that labeling someone as only playing for 
>the"cookies"
>is unfair to both them and our kingdom.  Labeling someone as such does
>nothing but cause hurt feelings and could possibly cause that person to 
>stop
>what they've been doing to contribute, and that in turn is bad for the
>kingdom.
>
>Who are we to judge someone's motives for contributing to our game?  No
>matter what motivates people to fight, perform, or volunteer, their
>contributions are welcome and needed to keep our society functioning.  If
>you were autocrating an event and had a shortage of help, would you only
>accept volunteers who were doing it out of "love"?  Would you even ask or
>care if there were ulterior motives?
>
>I know people who could fight (or perform or work etc...) for their entire
>lives and not get a single award and yet they would still continue.  I also
>know people who feel that serivce or talent of any sort should be rewarded,
>and strive for the positive feedback of awards.  Who is to say that one 
>does
>better service to our kingdom than the other?
>
>To me, no matter the motive, a person's donations to our society are worthy
>and cherished.  As long as the efforts made are to better our kingdom, no
>one should be scrutinized for the source of their motivation.
>
>Yours in Service and Song,
>Lady Angelique Le Woulfe
>
>
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