[Elfsea] Things that make life good in Elfsea

[Jenny Johnson]

Hear, Hear! Well said, Double-Mistress Stella!

Genna
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Estella Flather" <eflather at flash.net>
To: "Barony of Elfsea" <elfsea at ansteorra.org>
Sent: Tuesday, January 11, 2005 12:55 PM
Subject: [Elfsea] Things that make life good in Elfsea


> Greetings from HE Mistress (Squared) Stella Silvana-
> I think that it is time to once again remind everyone of the standards of
> courtesy that we should try to maintain in Elfsea. While it is not 
> possible
> to always be happy with everyone or to be best friends with everyone, we
> should try to treat each other with the same courtesy that we would wish
> ourselves to be treated. Therefore, please review carefully the items 
> below.
> No one is perfect, but we can still try.
> If you have a problem with someone, please talk to that person directly.
> Most often you will find that the person you have a problem with will say,
> "Gosh, I didn't know that was a problem. How can we fix this." It is very
> unfair to attack people behind their backs. This only fosters problems, it
> doesn't fix any problems.
> Talk is easy, following through and getting done what you say you are 
> going
> to do is hard. It is very important to do what you have promised to do.
> The corollary of the paragraph above is, if you promise to do something 
> and
> some life crisis happens and prevents you from doing what you have 
> promised
> to do, ask for help. Ask for help before it becomes an emergency. Don't 
> wait
> until the last minute and then dump it on someone else. However, you 
> should
> not make a habit of volunteering and then having to find a replacement.
> Which leads us to the next paragraph.
> Trust is difficult to achieve and easy to lose. No one will be able to
> trust you with major responsibilities if you have a habit of volunteering
> and then not getting the job done. If you want to be trusted, you need to
> develop a track record of getting done what you promise to do.
> You are unlikely to get an office if you do not participate in Baronial
> meetings to keep track of what is going on. One of the best ways to 
> develop
> trust in your skills as a manager is to volunteer to be a deputy to an
> office that you would later like to take over. If you want a job, you need
> to send in a bid. It does you no good to wait until the office is closed 
> and
> then complain that you wanted that job. It is even worse if you try to
> undermine the person who receives the job. Keep in mind though, that 
> however
> excited a person is when they first receive a job, they are going to run 
> out
> of energy and need a replacement in a year or two. There are always 
> openings
> coming up. Work on your resume by helping as a deputy or with other 
> smaller
> jobs, then you will be able to submit a really impressive bid when the
> office comes open again.
> Talking badly about other people behind their backs makes you look bad.
> People will assume that if you are saying bad things about other people,
> that you will say bad things about them also. Being positive helps your
> image. Running other people down will end up in damaging your image.
> Please, keep these ideas in mind when dealing with each other. Life is 
> much
> better when people are considerate of each other. Lets play nice! I love 
> you
> guys, but at the moment you are giving me a headache!
> In service- HE Stella
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