SC - rare foods at feasts-rant

[Bonne of Traquair]

Isha ArrowHawk <ArianneShadowWalker at worldnet.att.net> said:
> IMO, if I go to an event, (which I never have, btw), unless I am strictly
> invited to join in something, I will most likely keep out of the way and
> very small.  Usually, the people are close-knit, and most know each
other.
> I end up feeling a bit lost if I go somewhere and don't know anybody.
Being
> shy is a drawback..worse since I love people.  I dream of meeting
'royalty'
> one of these days, but I would most likely make a fool of myself.  I know
it
> isn't true of all groups, but some seem to congregate together, and an
> outsider is just that...looking in.  *shrugs*

Gosh!  where are you?  We need to hook you up with a hospitaler or
chatalaine before you go to your first group, or a household which performs
that type of function (mine used to...), otherwise you won't get to enjoy
anything!

I know that folks can seem cliquish, especially if they're part of a
household or close group, but hopefully that's more of an impression than a
reality... I'd hate to think that you are in any way discouraged from
participating fully because folks aren't friendly enough :-)

Sounds like you need to start by going to some local meetings and getting
to know someone who will take you under their wing.  Groups often have a
person who specifically does this as service to the group, as part of
either the hospitaler's office or the chatalaine's (if they don't have a
hospitaler) office.  You should hook up with that person if possible before
you go to an event, as it's in their "job description" to help you out, to
introduce you around and to help you get involved without stumbling.  If
you don't know who that person is, contact your group's Senechal or contact
person and they should get you connected.  If you dont' have a local group
or anyone close enough to help, then write the Autocrat of the event (if
you preregister, or just ask at the troll booth if you don't) and let them
know that you're new and a bit shy and would appreciate any assistance that
zie can give and the hosting group will likely be very helpful.  Courtesy
and Chivalry include providing hospitality for new comers, and there's no
need for you to go to your first even feeling lost or intimidated in any
way.

Good luck!

I remain, in service to Meridies,
Lady Celia des L'archier