[Sca-cooks] P B & J
ladyadele at paradise.net.nz
Wed Aug 26 15:02:31 PDT 2009
Judith Epstein wrote:
> On Aug 26, 2009, at 4:11 PM, Antonia Calvo wrote:
>> Judith Epstein wrote:
>>> But a simple "No, thank you..." Well, it's surface-polite, but it
>>> doesn't tell me anything that's useful. Give me something I can use.
>>> "No thank you, I can't eat onions." You don't have to tell me
>>> whether you're allergic or you just dislike them enough to make the
>>> dining experience entirely unpleasant. At least, not at the table.
>>> When I invite you over, that's the time to tell me, "I'd love to
>>> come, but I should tell you that I can't eat onions." Okay, then,
>>> that helps me! For that, I will go out of my way to give you an
>>> amazing meal that doesn't involve onions. Or blueberries, or
>>> whatever it is that you can't eat for any reason whatsoever.
>> No thank you. I hate bell peppers with the fire of a thousand suns
>> and I won't eat them to please anyone, not even you.
> Remind me again, if I invite you to dinner.
The thing is, I'd be cringing with embarrassment if you quizzed me about
"why" I didn't eat something, and it's wildly unlikely I'd say any such
thing. I might be willing to have that kind of conversation with my
close friends, but that's *it*. If someone grilled me about what I did
and didn't eat at a meal, I'd be reluctant to dine with that person again.
Antonia di Benedetto Calvo
Habeo metrum - musicamque,
hominem meam. Expectat alium quid?
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