[Steppes] Gate Issues (was Discouraging / Encouraging)

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Sir Morgan, you couldn't be more right!  We shouldn't need a class in being polite and courteous.  However, it wouldn't hurt to teach a class in interpersonal dynamics and how to diffuse a potential "situation", which is what appears to be needed.  Many of us may not know or may have forgotten some of the techniques used in the business world to diffuse difficult situations.  

Also, there are proper channels in which to make a legitimate complaint against an officer, noble, or peer, and it wouldn't hurt to have a reminder of what those are.

Saqra

-----Original Message-----
From: Sir Morgan Buchanan <morganbuchanan at hotmail.com>
To: Steppes List <steppes at lists.ansteorra.org>
Sent: Tue, 26 Jun 2007 1:10 pm
Subject: Re: [Steppes] Gate Issues (was Discouraging / Encouraging)



As Baroness Alys pointed out, gate is an opportunity for bad communication 
o occur on both sides of the coin.  There's plenty of blame in this world 
nd situations where the gate person is fully at fault, situations where the 
erson going through the gate is fully at fault, situations where the fault 
s shared in the big grey area in beteween.  Her advise is sage.  Meet these 
ituations with politeness FIRST.
Certainly there are times when a confrontation will become necessary.
But what bothers me is that people who would strive to be exceptionally 
olite in the game-side of things, just through "those doors", would not let 
he magic of the SCA change thier hearts and lives, and let that be the 
uiding light for their more modern lives, like paying real world money to 
et to participate in their hobby, or taking money so their chapter of a 
lub can afford to host an event.
Do we need a CLASS for this?  Gosh I hope not.  I hope that when I fail that 
y friends will gentely remind me, and I pray I'm noble enough to recognize 
he FAVOR I'm being done.
Morgan 
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